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The Spiral of Overthinking: Can I Just Get a Moment of Peace

well-being Jan 15, 2025
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Do you ever feel like your own mind is working against you? Like it’s spinning chaotic, overwhelming stories that drown out your ability to think clearly? Lately, that’s exactly how I’ve been feeling - like my mind has turned into this unrelenting whirlwind of noise. And it’s frustrating.

 

My thoughts feel like an overcrowded, chaotic room with no exit - a relentless buzz dragging me into overwhelming, unproductive spaces. Noisy, busy, or overstimulating environments seem to amplify the chaos, turning it into a full-blown spiral of weighty, nonsensical worries. These thoughts serve no purpose, yet they grip me tightly, leaving me stressed, drained, and desperate for some peace.

  

The frustrating part is, I know these thoughts are totally irrational. I’ll catch myself worrying about something small - like, is that person okay? - and suddenly, that worry snowballs into full-blown existential dread about global crises. Logically, I know it doesn’t make sense, but understanding that doesn’t calm the storm. What’s going on? Did something trigger this, or am I just losing my mind? šŸ˜©

 

Taking Steps to Regain Control

 

The last time I felt this way, I handed my phone over to Luke, and it really helped. I’ve even thought about getting a separate phone for work, but honestly, simplicity works best for me (and let’s face it - I’d probably lose it).

 

So, I’m doing it again: handing my phone over to Luke. Don't worry - I still check it at set times for important calls and messages. But beyond that, I'm being intentional about disconnecting. Luke’s basically my personal security guard, protecting me from the distractions that pull me off track. He might not have signed up for this role, but I’m pretty sure he secretly loves it. šŸ«¤šŸ“µ

 

Revisiting an Emotional Journey

 

Lately, my mind has been stuck in an unhelpful loop, and I can’t quite figure out why. The other day, as I was writing about my Three Peaks Challenge, I found myself getting emotional. Reliving that experience brought back everything - the highs, the lack of sleep, and the moments that made it unforgettable.

 

Out of nowhere, I started worrying about someone who had helped me through that challenge. Then I started worrying about why I was worrying. Does this mean something’s wrong with them? Does it mean they're not okay? šŸ˜Ÿ

 

Look, even as I write this, I know how ridiculous it sounds. šŸ¤¦‍ā™€ļø But at the time? I couldn’t stop the spiral.

 

I kept coming back to a lesson I learned during a retreat last year: thoughts are just energy. āš” The more weight you give them, the heavier they become. Analysing them feels like the responsible thing to do, but it only makes them stick around longer.

 

The person who supported me during the challenge means a lot to me, and I’ll always be grateful. But this sudden surge of worry? It’s irrational and unproductive - and I know it. Yet somehow, that knowledge doesn’t make it any easier to let go.

 

Overthinking Everything: My Accidental Hobby

 

It’s not just about this one person - lately, I’ve been carrying a persistent worry, this nagging sense that I’m falling short. I can’t shake the feeling that I’m letting people down, and I know I have no one else to blame but myself. I have the capacity to do so much more, to make a difference to people's lives, yet I keep failing myself and others by getting stuck in distractions and spiralling into irrational, unproductive thoughts.

 

Look, it probably sounds a little self-important, but it’s not coming from ego. I genuinely believe that the practical financial guidance and help I'll share can make a real difference. I’m not claiming to have cracked some groundbreaking secret, and I’m definitely not pretending to be the next Einstein. šŸ¤“ But through my experiences - both in financial advice and life - I’ve come to realise there are basic concepts everyone should understand, yet so many don’t. Money doesn’t have to be complicated. Once you grasp the fundamentals, it’s actually surprisingly simple. 

 

Instead of putting my energy into sharing that message, I’ve found myself drowning in distractions. Doom-scrolling through Instagram? Yep. Overanalysing every feeling? You bet. The truth is, I’m the only one to blame for this, and I know it.

 

That One Quote That Stopped Me in My Tracks

 

While doom scrolling (before I gave Luke my phone šŸ«¤), I came across a quote from one of the people who hosted the retreat I keep going on about from last year:

 

"I forget that I cannot live and avoid feelings. That’s impossible. I forget that the harder I try, the more ‘bad feelings’ I have, and the longer I feel them." – Wyn Morgan

 

It reminded me of something I already knew but had been ignoring: you can’t avoid bad feelings. You can’t outrun them, analyse them into submission, or lock them in a mental closet. The harder you try, the louder and more persistent they get.

 

Feelings - whether it's worry, frustration, or disappointment - are just part of life. They rise and fall. Always. The real problem comes when I try to dissect them, searching for answers that don't exist, hoping the feelings will disappear. But that’s when they dig in and refuse to leave.

 

Refocussing on What Matters

 

I've been doing exactly what that quote warned against - fighting my feelings instead of letting them flow. And guess what? It's exhausting.

 

Emotions, seriously - what’s your deal? They feel like a relentless, nagging force that pulls me off track every chance they get.

 

Enough is enough.

 

It’s time to get back on track. Time to channel my energy into what really matters - my boys, my work (hey, it matters to me, okay), and the people I can actually help, if I stop letting my overactive mind get in the way. šŸ™„

 

Overthinking? Yeah, you’re winning today. But tomorrow? Tomorrow’s a different story. āœØ

 

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